Life in San Francisco Archive

Alice in Shutter Island

On Monday, I went with my friend, Will, to see “Alice in Wonderland” in 3D at the Metreon.  He was seeking a break from moving, and I hadn’t been to a movie in quite a while, so relished the opportunity to see it.  Plus, I usually like Tim Burton movies.

As expected, the landscape was surreal and bizzare, the costumes and makeup crazy and odd, and most everything about the movie I really enjoyed, except I kept asking myself, “why does this need to be in 3D?  what feature of 3D are they using that without, the movie would be diminished?”

The answer is none whatsoever.  Yes, the 3D is nice.  Yes, it does create a somewhat more immersive experience, but so what?  It didn’t detract, but it certainly didn’t add anything, neither.  I was thinking of testing out this hypothesis by seeing the movie in 2D.

The week has continued on, and today I went to see “Shutter Island” with Jason.  This movie could have benefited from 3D, especially in the “ward c” scenes.  It would have made an already excellent movie even better.  And the surprise ending?  I’m still not 100% certain which section of the movie was supposed to be real, and which the delusion.  And that uncertainty makes the movie wonderful.

Trapped Like Rats

Saturday after work, Nicholas came and picked me up, and asked me if I would go with him to the Easy Bay where he had to walk the dogs and get his father’s house ready for an open house on Sunday.  I agreed, although I knew that I also had to make an appearance at Western Star Dancers’ 28 Anniversary Dance that evening, too, but I figured that we would get the stuff over quickly enough.

I was starving, and suggested burritos, but Nicky suggested this Indian place in Berkeley called Vik’s Chaat Corner, which is down by the Steamworks.  It’s a large, friendly place filled with all sorts of patron, and I agreed.  We ordered Masala Dosa, veggie dosa, pakoras, tender coconut (juice served in the shell).  All was delicious and if you get the chance to go there, I totally recommend it.

After dinner, we drove to El Cerrito to walk the dogs and do the last minute touch-ups for the open house.  I plopped down and was playing Civilization on the PS3 while he did the touch-ups.  Next thing I know, I’m waking up at 1:50am with the game controller in my hands while he’s curled up on the bed next to me.  Crap, I thought.  So, I gently wake him up and go down to the car, only to find that Nick’s father’s girlfriend’s BMW has boxed us in.

Back upstairs, I tell him that we may as well sleep here since waking her up at 2am would be drama-filled, and he was still essentially asleep anyway, so I get undressed and into bed with him and off we go to a quiet sleep.

The next morning, I need to get back to San Francisco, so we do the car shuffle and head back home to SF, where I make a quick call to the FCD Secretary, Steve, to ask him if he’d pick me up on his way to the Presidio Club Cafe, out at the Presidio Golf Course, for our Spring recruiting drive meeting.  He was agreeable to that, so I got Nicky set up with his own login on my computer to he could look for a new job, and I schlepped off to the meeting.

Said meeting was very productive, with lots of good ideas, and the ball is rolling for our big fund raising gala in June.  Sunday evening, Nicky went to the ashram in San Ramon for some volunteer work, but he left his phone here!

Bathing in Spicy Soup

I’d been feeling tight and low energy, so after my last client of the day yesterday, I went to my next door office neighbor and received an acupuncture treatmeant.  Following that, I went downstairs, where Nicky picked me up and we whooshed off to the Kabuki Springs for an evening of soaking.  We found practically princess parking, and got there before the evening rush, so we were ensconced in the hot waters before it got too crowded and they started keeping people waiting.

Nicky had never been to the baths before and was nervous a bit, but I reassured him that he’d be just fine, and that we wouldn’t be the biggest guys there – and we were right.  There were bears and big guys a-plenty, including a couple of guys I had gone out with a few times.  I normally stay in the waters for a few hours, but after the acupuncture, my energy was a bit disrupted, and I only stayed for 90 minutes, then retired to the lounge area in the locker room to read Organic Spa Magazine while I waited for Nicky to finish taking the waters.

About an hour later, Nicky emerged from the baths, feeling relaxed and better.  We dressed and headed over to Chilli Cha Cha for dinner.  Another place he’d never been, so I ordered for us, and ordered Crispy Tofu w/peanut sauce, Mun Tod (fried sweet potatoes) w/sweet chili sauce, Green Papaya Salad w/Prawns (spicy), Combination Seafood Hot and Sour Soup (extra spicy), and Woo Sen Pad Thai.  I really wanted spicy food to complete the sweating process and help cleanse our systems.  And boy, when I said spicy, they took that to heart.  I love spicy food, but the soup was almost too spicy – I had to ask for extra napkins in order to wipe my nose!  We ordered fresh coconut juice halfway through the meal to help with the heat of the food, and it definitely helped.  Yet, we ate it all, and were satisfied.

Finally, we came home and watched the Olympic figure skating ice dance competition.  I wished the Americans had taken the gold, but the Canadians performance was beautiful and graceful (although not as technically difficult) and I am glad they won, too.

In the Gutter on the Roof

In the Gutter on the Roof

Saturday morning, Nicky and I woke up and headed to Kensington for breakfast at the Inn Kensington Cafe, and then to his father’s house in the El Cerrito hills to clean out the roof gutters in anticipation of this week’s mega-rain. The house overlooks the eastern side of the hills, into Tilden Park, and is a lovely flat-roofed structure. His father is an architect and designed the house and several other of the homes in that neighborhood.

After we finished the gutters, it was time to get Nicky to work, so I drove him to downtown Oakland and the restaurant. I had to go to Berkeley to Bodywork Central to pick up some massage lubricants. The store is going out of business after 15 years, and they were fairly steeply discounting their remaining stock, so I got a nice price on the various lotions and gels and creams I purchased. Score!

I gassed up the vehicle and still had a few hours to kill before Nicky got off work, so after making a visit to Sacred Rose Tattoo to see my tattooist and make an appointment for mid-May, I headed over to the restaurant and hung out with the customers and staff there. There was fun and lively conversation, and they make such yummy oysters!

Nicholas closed the restaurant down and we headed back to UGH for our evening’s activities.

Sunday morning, I headed over to my friend P. A. Cooley’s place to be photographed for the upcoming Facebook | Bearlesque Talent Search this coming Saturday at Edge Bar in the Castro. It’s a fundraiser for the Lemonade Fund, which raises money for critically ill theater workers.  Also Sunday, I did some work on the membership renewal letter for Foggy City Dancers.

Later that evening, [info]bigjohnsf and I met [info]albadger at the Emery Bay Public Market for supper, then headed to the Trader Joe’s nearby for a bit of grocery shopping.  Nicky came by after he got off work and we played video games and cuddled, finally falling asleep on the giant couch together.

New Year Celebrations

New Year Celebrations

Nicholas showed up from work around 21:00 – the chef at his restaurant was really sick, and with only two people working, including Nicky, it’s impossible to run the place. So, Nicholas closed the shop early on New Year’s Eve, much to the chagrin of the owners, but there was no one else to come in and work.

When he arrived, I ordered Chinese food from Bamboo on Polk near Sacramento, and we had a huge pescetarian feast of walnut prawns, general’s “chicken,” bok choi and mushrooms, and crab rangoon (with real crab), all with brown rice. While we were waiting for the food to show up, I was texting with our buddy, Bruin, who was having dinner at some friends’ place. We three were to meet up later that night and ring in the new year. Bruin’s husband, Will, was working at the hotel, so we were sad that he wouldn’t be with us to celebrate.

But the dinner at Bruin’s was being cooked a course at a time so it seemed. We started to get the idea that Bruin was going to miss out on hanging with us, and he confirmed that a short time later. So, we got in the car and headed down to SOMA, found a parking space, and headed to Chaps for their celebration. Unfortunately, the crowd at Chaps was tired and tiresome, so after our one drink, we walked over to the Lone Star, where we found a jovial crowd much more to our liking.

This was Nicky’s first time in public collared, as well as wearing his tail, and he seemed a little subdued. He stayed very close to me all night, like a shy lil puppy, and I kept a protective arm around him much of the time. The tail created a deep awareness in him of his puppy nature, and he seemed happy and content.

Meanwhile, I was socializing with the bears and cubs, talking with friends old and new. Mark Katzenberger and Bob Thurman, as well as [info]urbear, among others.

But people started to move on toward their next destinations, and I wanted to get Nicky home, so I whipped out the 12-foot coil of rope I had in my pocket and bound his wrists behind his back on the patio of the Lone Star, which caused a minor stir, then led him out. I overheard Mark and Bob discussing sharing a taxi, so I offered them rides home. The four of us wandered back to the car, and after a minor rearrangement of the back seat, we drove off, first to the Castro to drop off Mark, then to the (outer) Castro to drop off Bob. Finally, I found us a good parking spot near home, and we headed upstairs.

Untying Nicky can be as much fun as tying him up!

Thank You, Olin, For Bringing Me Nicholas

Thank You, Olin, For Bringing Me Nicholas

There was that soldier I had written about before.  Well, in early November, Olin came to San Francisco and we met, spending about an hour together.  There were no real sparks between us, and although we had agreed to meet later that evening at the Lone Star Saloon,  I had the feeling that he wasn’t going to show, and was proved right.

But, while I was waiting for Olin not to show up, sitting at the bar drinking a Bass Ale, my eyes chanced to look at the entry curtain as this beautiful young man walked into the place: around 5′10″, with chestnut hair, blue eyes, fair skin, and a sweet shy smile that made me get all melty inside.  We met eyes for just a moment – a moment that seemed to last for an hour – and he ordered his beer and headed out to the patio.  My loyalty to the idea that Olin might show up kept me from on the spot introducing myself to him.

That wasted hour was spent sitting on that stool, intuiting that Olin wasn’t going to show, but taking the effort to be ready, just in case he did.  It would have been bad manners to do otherwise.  When I finished my beer, I grabbed a second and walked out to the patio, hoping to get the chance to talk to that beautiful man.   There he was standing in a circle of guys, including my friend, Evan the Taxi-driver/Esthetician. Such luck!

So, with that in, I greeted Evan, he greeted me, and the young man gave me a smile which I returned, walking down the deck steps to join the group.  Introductions were made, and I learned his name is Nicholas.  Over the course of the conversation, I learn that he’s 28, single, a pescetarian like me, and other interesting things.  I’m growing intrigued by this man, and I can see that he’s interested in me, too.  So, I start telling the story of the Long, Long RV and make him laugh a few times.

Finally, I use my mental powers to bring him closer to me, and we have another introduction, with last names this time, and I get closer to him and we kiss, just a simple kiss, but one so full of promise.  I can feel his energy like a blue-purple snowflower, with a calm rhythm that draws me in.

But the bar was issuing its last call, and so we got in my rental car and drove to the top of Twin Peaks so we could talk more.  And we did, exploring our lives and interests, and feeling that connection that we felt when we first met eyes.  Sadly, he had to work early the next morning, so I took him back to his car down near the Lone Star, and we parted company, but not before we exchanged phone numbers.

That was seven weeks ago, and we have been seeing each other ever since.   So, I have to thank the soldier for flaking on me, and letting me have the chance to meet Nicholas, my sweet little hobbit.

60 Minutes Is A Long Time To Wait for Gulab Jamun

60 Minutes Is A Long Time To Wait for Gulab Jamun

Thanksgiving was spent here at home, with John cooking all of the dinner this year.  With all the massage work lately, I just didn’t feel like cooking at all.  John had a couple of guests over: Steven J. and his mother, who was visiting Steven from Newport News, Virginia.  The mom, whose name I am ashamed to admit I can’t remember, was a retired music teacher, and was truly delightful.

I cooked the carcass down and made around 1.5 gallons of turkey stock for John.  David returned later in the evening from his dinner engagement in Oakland.

Friday, though, was weird.  John and David got into this huge argument over nothing worth arguing over, and I had to get out of the house.  As it happens, George was in town and asked me if I wanted to have dinner with him, so we went and had supper at Chow, where we had the most tasteless pair of meals we’d ever had there.  At the conclusion of the meal, we both decided that we didn’t need to eat there again for a few months.  The lasagna was just dull and lifeless, and his pasta was boring, too.

After dinner, we walked to the video store in the Castro for George to rent a couple of movies.  Wandering back to his car on Dolores at 14th, we enjoyed talking and holding hands in the brisk evening air.  I wanted to go back down to Palo Alto with him, but he wanted to get a head-start on packing his apartment for his impending move from Palo Alto to Santa Clara.

So, he dropped me off at home, and I braced myself for the chilly atmosphere of UGH.

Saturday I woke up and had a cup of coffee, then showered and hopped on the bus downtown to have Indian food with this buddy from Bear411.  We had been texting each other that morning, and had decided to go to Little Delhi at Mason and Eddy.  I got there around 10 minutes early and told him I was going to go inside and sit down.  He had said that he was in a traffic snarl and would be there as soon as he could.  When I asked him where the snarl was, he said that he was trying to get into the Caldecott Tunnell(!), then that he was approaching the bridge, finally getting off the bridge and finding parking.  In the meanwhile, I ordered lunch, and when he showed up, an hour late, I had largely finished eating lunch, although I had saved him some.

Yes, I waited an hour for him to show up.  The only reason I did so was because he was a grown-up and gave me clear communication and updates while I waited.

After lunch, we wandered around Union Square, and I got to tell him about the Dewey Memorial, and trotted out my origins of the phrase “Sugar Daddy” story (which I will be using on my upcoming Barbary Coast Stairway Walk as part of IBR in February).  I think I’m getting better at telling stories, regardless.

From Union Square, we headed to my office building three blocks away so I could use the loo, and we sat in my office for a few minutes talking some more, then headed back downstairs.  Seeing that it was 17:10, I bade him farewell, and hopped on the 21-Hayes homeward.

Work, Work, Work

Work, Work, Work

IMG_5169I did two back-to-back two hour massages Saturday, which capped off my work week sinking into exhaustion.  Yet, I somewhat foolishly decided to follow-through on my plan to attend the Capitol City Squares’ Harvest Moon and 28th Anniversary Dance in Sacramento.  Steve picked me and new dancer, Jason, up and off we schlepped to Sacramento.

We arrived 30 minutes into the dance, and I only danced four tips that evening, but they were good.  I danced two Plus tips, one Class-level tip, and the one A2 tip they had.  The calling was brisk and just challenging enough, although I was truly wiped out by the end of the night, and sat out most of dancing to marshal my energy for that A2 tip.

After the dance, we all piled back into Steve’s car and we made it back to San Francisco by 23:30, even with the lane closures on the Bay Bridge.

Sunday, I walked to the Lone Star Saloon, and drank some beer at the bust for the South Bay Bears.  Chatted with folks I hadn’t seen in a while, especially Will and Bruin.  Sometime about half-way into the bust, Will decided that he had had enough crowd, so he and Bruin left.

IMG_5170As I was standing there talking to this crazy guy who thought silk came from flies, and wool from “farm animals,” I decided to excuse myself and leave with them.  We walked up to Market Street, then further all the way to the Castro, where we made our farewells.  I could feel my back complaining so went over to Thai Chef and gratefully sat down.  During the walk, a young man with whom I had been chatting on bear411 called and asked where we could meet.  I let him know that I was going to be dining at Thai Chef, and that he was free to join me if he wanted.

IMG_5175He arrived not long after I sat down, and we had a nice conversation about nothing in particular.  After supper, we wandered around the Castro windowshopping, and I gave him a couple of smooches in front of Urban Florist as the purple-colored  phalaenopsis peered back at us through the glass.  I was definitely showing signs of having a sore back, though, and he graciously offered to give me a ride home.  Once upstairs, I shed my clothes, checked email, and climbed up into my bed.  Sleep came quickly, and deeply.

The Long, Long RV

The Long, Long RV

A couple of weeks ago, gordreeceGord R Reece and his partner, Scott, “hired” me to drive them in a giant RV for four days, from San Jose to Lake Tahoe to Mono Lake to Death Valley to Palm Springs. I thought this would be a fun way to spend a few days, as I don’t get to indulge my passion for long road trips very often these days.

So, last Wednesday they (and their two Chihuahuas, Bruiser and Sparky) picked me up here at UGH in their heavily loaded station wagon and we headed down to San Jose to the RV rental place to pick up the Winnebago Journey, otherwise known as Caliban. We got the beast loaded up, the rental staff did a walk-through of the creature, showing us all of its monstrous features, and we hit the road.

Our first stop was Lake Tahoe, Nevada, where Scott had a date with the Harrah’s casino. We drove up 680 to 80 to 50 to the casino, and I drove that beast on US 50’s crazy curves at night! That was a real test of driving and nerve, that’s certain. But Gord slept through it all in the way back of the rig, so it must have been a successful quiz with a passing grade.

We dined at the Harrah’s buffet, and not long after, I crashed out and went to bed. Next morning, I woke up before the dawn and watched its rosy fingers caress the mountain tops, did some good stretching, took a nice shower, and waited for Scott and Gord to wake up and get ready to go. I texted Gord and he said Scott would be waking up at 10:30, so I chilled out in the room, watched some TV, updated my facebook, and relaxed, knowing that Thursday’s drive would be another long one.

After they got up and about, we went down to the VIP lounge, where their friend, Mary, hung out with us and chatted for a while. She works there in some aspect of marketing, and was a delightful lady. I mostly just sat there and listened to them all talk, but it was illuminating to do so. Listening is the best way to learn about people, I find.

We left Harrah’s and made a quick stop in the Safeway, broke our fast, then hit the road. In order to get onto US 395 from Tahoe, we had to surmount the Kingsbury Grade. Check out the map here.  It’s a devious and treacherous stretch of highway that leads to Minden, Nevada and 395.  Truly, it was a joy to drive it, even with Caliban’s behemothishness.

Our next stop was a quick fueling stop, then on to Mono Lake, and it’s otherworldly atmosphere.  We took a lot of photos there, but the Visitor’s Center was closed, so we didn’t tarry too long.   Our stop for the night in Lone Pine, CA and the Boulder Creek RV Park awaited. And here’s where our tale, gentle readers, goes horribly awry.

I got us situated in our stall, and Gord lowered the leveling jacks, electric-powered hydraulic jacks, which keep the RV stable for sleeping and cooking and what-not.  Once that was done, we had supper and hung out for a while before we all went to sleep.  Next morning, after coffee and breakfast were had, I started to get us underway, started up the engine, turned on the jack system, and hit the “retract” button.  No response.  I tried various other things, but didn’t get anything to happen, so I turned it back over to Gord, and let him try.  Nothing, so we called the RV rental place, and spoke to someone there who walked us through essentially the same stuff we had already tried.

Failing that, the maintenance guy found a mechanic back in Bishop, California, roughly 40 miles back up the road.  He wasn’t available until around 3pm, so we were essentially stuck in Lone Pine, hoist on our own… well, I wouldn’t say petard, since that’s nasty, but certainly we had hung ourselves up and there we stayed.

Our mechanic arrived pretty much when he said he would, a nine-fingered Cajun Katrina refugee named Monte.  He quickly figured out the problem, and had us back on the ground in around 15 minutes.

But with all that time wasted, our itinerary was way off schedule, so we re-grouped, and decided to head to our next destination anyway, the ghost town,  Rhyolite, Nevada (map).  We didn’t want to see it in the dark, though, so we tried to get a space in Beatty, Nevada, the nearest town.  But it was Amargosa Valley Pioneer Days, and all the RV Parks were full up, so we hit our alternative plan and went to the Longstreet Casino and RV Park in Amargosa Valley at stateline.  It’s a fortunate thing we did, else we’d never have seen the tallest steer I’d ever encountered.  It was as tall at the shoulders as I am.  Freakishly huge!

Rhyolite was a real highlight of the journey.  The empty concrete shells of this boom-bust mining town stood as eerie reminders of the transience of civilizations.  I mean golly-gee willickers, some of those building weren’t even 100 years old!  And, more to the point, but Beatty was only four miles away, so it’s not as if Rhyolite was such a poor location that it couldn’t have been sustained.  Gord took tons of pictures of the town, I took a bunch which I’ll be posting soon, and Scott took a bunch of video, so hopefully we’ll get to see it again.

Once again, we hit the road, and headed back, past Longstreet and stateline, the Amargose Opera House at Death Valley Junction, and on CA-127 toward Baker.  A few miles from Shoshone (map), we started to notice a loud hissing of air, and I saw that the air pressure gauges were going down.  When we got to town, I pulled into an unpaved parking lot next to the Post Office and market.  It seems the brakes developed a leak somewhere in their system, so once again we called the RV rental place back in San Jose.  This time, though, the nearest mechanic was over in Las Vegas, around 90 miles away, and he wasn’t available until 6:30pm.  Well, that meant I wouldn’t make my 5:30pm flight back to San Francisco, so we all decided to make the best of it.  Luckily we were in an actual town, and the town was holding a craft fair with live music and yummy foodstuffs.

The mechanic turned out to be a Shoshone native who fled the tiny town (population 52 at the 2000 census) back in the early 1970s for the glamour of Las Vegas.  When he arrived, he was able to quickly diagnose the problem, had the part in his service vehicle already, and after about an hour, he had me start the engine and check to see that the air pressure was increasing, which it did fairly quickly.  Back on the road!

56 miles down the road, we arrived in Baker, home of the world’s tallest thermometer (and a state prison, but that’s not important to this story).  I recommended that we have dinner at the Mad Greek Cafe, as I had been to Baker probably a dozen times with my friend Frank on our trips through the desert.  Gord and Scott were agreeable to this, and I pulled into the parking lot and we dined.

While we were eating, we discussed how we should proceed to get most quickly to Palm Springs.  My original intention was to take the Kel-Amboy road through the Mojave National Monument, get us to Twenty-Nine Palms, and from there to Palm Springs.  This was geographically the shortest and most beautiful route, but also the most mountainous.  Since it was well into night at this point, it didn’t make any sense to do so, and with Caliban having had two mechanical failures, I didn’t trust it to make it safely through the mountains.  So, instead I advised us to head west on I-15 back to San Bernadino and I-10 east to Palm Springs.  It was a longer route, but at least we’d be on a major roadway if something else did happen.  With our plan in place, we finished our meal companionably, and prepared to get underway again.

O Gentle Readers, you know where this is going, right?  Three miles on I-15, and I noticed what looked like a firefly shooting across the screen of the rear-view camera system.  Zing!  I thought to myself, that’s odd, I didn’t think fireflies lived in the desert. And I was right, because immediately after that, several more sparks flew from the screen, followed by more, and more, and more, until it looked like someone had lit one of those cone fireworks that you can buy at a July fireworks stand.

“Something’s wrong,” I exclaimed to Gord and Scott as I started look for a way off the road.  An exit came upon us and I got off at Zzyzx Road exit, pulled over, and they rushed out of the RV, fire extinguisher and flashlight in hand.  There didn’t seem to be any fire, but they did notice that it had gotten quite warm back in the bedroom.

I found us a “safe” place to park, but it was on the eastbound on-ramp for the freeway, and I didn’t feel safe there, so I told the guys that I didn’t feel safe, and we limped back to Baker, where Scott found us a tiny RV park attached to a mobile home park.  I backed us into the stall, and we all just stared at each other, trying to fathom just how crazy this trip had become.  Finally, there wasn’t anything to do but go to bed, and we did, dispirited.

In the morning, after we got a decent amount of sleep, and breakfast at the Bob’s Big Boy across Baker’s main street, there wasn’t much to do except wait for the mechanic to come back out from Vegas.  Scott was on the phone with the RV place, rather upset at all of these developments, yet I felt strangely happy.  Even with three breakdowns, we were safe, and each time we were near civilization.  It was a grand adventure.

When the hot mechanic arrived (I neglected to mention his startlingly blue eyes and thick chest before), I was sitting in the pilot’s chair, and Scott and Gord had taken the mattress off of the bed, exposing the bonnet covering the engine compartment.  They opened the compartment and he got to work.

“Oh.”

“Wow.”

This can’t be good, I thought.

He came back out and told us that some part of the turbo’s exhaust system had fallen off.  But wait, there’s more! Not just that, but he didn’t have the part with him, his shop didn’t have one in stock, and no shop would likely have this in stock and it would have to come from the manufacturer.  He thought he could get one same-day shipped on Monday, be back out here that evening, and we would be in Palm Spring that night.

I could feel insane laughter threaten, but I stayed quiet and started thinking about my escape plans. A couple of telephone calls exchanged with Frank and I had gotten him to agree to a rental car and drive from Monrovia to Baker.  Scott bought me a flight from LAX to SFO for Monday evening, and Gord had bought a small grill at the corner mercantile a block away, and he grilled three big steaks.  By the time Frank arrived, we were tired but still in good spirits.

Frank got to Baker at 9:30pm, and after a short visit, I bade Gord and Scott and Bruiser and Sparky farewell.  Frank was hungry, so we went across the street to the Mad Greek again, then headed back into the desert and Tecopa, where we soaked under the stars in a hot springs for an hour, then made our way back to Baker and the 15 and pointed our way to Los Angeles.

We arrived in Monrovia at 6:00am, and after visiting with Frank’s housemate, Long Hair Bear, I promptly crashed out.

Frank and I had lunch at Pie N Burger in Pasadena, where I had the garden burger, fries, and a tremendously good piece of Coconut Meringue pie.  After some more running around randomly, he deposited me at LAX, where I printed out my boarding pass and made my way to the gate.  The flight home was uneventful, and David and John met me at SFO and we came home.

Gord and Scott finally got to Palm Springs on Tuesday evening, as the part wasn’t available until then, but from what I have seen so far, they have been enjoying the remainder of their vacation.

Even with all the craziness of the drive, this was a trip to remember for a long, long time.

Sunday Funday

Sunday Funday

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I woke up on Sunday morning early, to finish compiling my notes and route map for the October Stairway Walk.  More people than before had signed up on the facebook event invitation, and I was nervous about being prepared enough.  As it turned out, I was right to be prepared.

After printing out my map and notes, I walked toward Van Ness muni station, stopping at the Walgreen’s to pick up a bottle of water and trail mix, just in case I felt hungry on the route.  I telephoned one of my regular walkers to remind him that the event was that day, since I hadn’t seen him RSVP.  He was happy I did, and got ready to attend.

The train was right on time, and I hopped on, riding the three stops to Forest Hill.  From the station, I wended my way up Dewey Avenue to the meeting point at Pacheco and Merced Avenues.  First to arrive was markosfMark Olson and two of his friends.  Over the next 15 or so minutes, the rest of the folks ambled up afoot, in car, or via taxi.  We were ready to go.

Forest Hill was carved from the Mexican land grant, Rancho San Miguel, on the death of the last Alcalde of San Francisco, which was roughly equivalent to a mayor.  1100 acres of the 4400 acres was purchased by Adolph Sutro, the rest by the Crocker family.  But Sutro and his band of volunteers went on a reforestation binge, covering Forest Hill and surround areas with all sorts of trees.

It was those very trees in 1912 that made the development of the land such a challenge.  But the designers of the neighborhood were wise, leaving as many of the trees intact as they could, as well as shaping the roads to the contours of the land.  The resulting neighborhood is full of swooping curves, breathtaking vistas, and because of Arts and Crafts architects like Bernard Maybeck, who designed the Palace of Fine Arts among other distinguished building in San Francisco and the Bay Area, created a wonderland of homes that are among the most beautiful in the City.  At the same time, the private development’s streets did not conform to the City’s requirements for grade, width, etc, and they were not accepted by the City for maintenance of curbs and roads until 1978, after a hue and cry (and lawsuit) by the neighborhood.  This was the fairyland into which we ventured.

The weather was sunny and warm, delightful for climbing to the 771-foot summit. We largely followed the route set forth in the Bakalinsky book,Stairway Walks of San Francisco, although we did make a couple of detours that made the walk more interesting.  I’ll be re-plotting my route map on google to incorporate these changes.

When we finished the walk, we talked about going for coffee and lunch back in the Castro, so some of us walked back to the train station, and hopped on the MUNI for the one-stop jaunt back to the Castro.  We met at Starbucks and while some stayed for coffee there, others went to Philz down the street, and three of us went to Sliders for lunch.  Their grilled cheese sandwich with an avocado is delightful.

While Erez, Mike, and I were eating lunch, I received a text message from George, asking me what I was doing.  Right as we were finishing up with our food, he came up to us and he and I walked for a while, and we bid farewell to Erez and Mike.

Georgie was hungry, so we went over to Cafe Flore, where I had a piece of pie and a glass of sangria, while he had a big bowl of soup.  From there, we walked down Noe Street for a few blocks before turning back toward the Castro.  He wanted to try to find a Klondike ice cream bar, so we wandered into a couple of stores to no avail.  Finally at the 7-11 on 18th Street, he settled for a Good Humor bar with crushed Oreo Cookies crusting it.

We continued walked a little while, ended up at Diamond Street, where we sat on a shady stoop talking about what’s going on between us.  We’re still stuck in limbo – I want to pursue romantic relationship with him, he’s nervous about it but still not cutting himself off to the possibility.  But that’s better than a sharp stick in the eye, yes?

Finally, the weather was cooling off, and he gave me a ride home.  I had time for a quick shower, a short run over to look at a massage space (unacceptable, and way too expensive to boot), then Will and Bruin picked me up and we headed down to San Mateo to see a hockey team play a game.  One of their friends, JP, is a member of the team, and I, having never seen a hockey game before, thought it might be fun.

There were quite a few guys that I was acquainted with on the team, which surprised me a bit. At first, I couldn’t figure out what was going on, it just seemed so random, but then I started getting into the game, cheering with the rest of the Goaldiggers’ supporters and taking pictures. The cold ice arena felt so good after spending the day in the heat, and hill climbing to boot!

After the game, which the Goaldiggers lost, we all went to Red Robin next to the rink for a team supper. Much merry-making and good-natured teasing ensued, as most of the team is gay, and the straight guys are hip and with it, so we all had fun.

Will and Bruin drove me home, and I climbed into bed, with a satisfying exhaustion laid upon me.