Five Words To Discovery

The lovely and talented Allan H. gave me five words to write about.

• healing
  I don’t really think of myself as a healer.  Rather, I think of what I do as a bodyworker, to paraphrase Ida Rolf, as putting the body where I want it to be and invite it to move.  My clients do all of the healing themselves; I just put the body where I think it needs to be in order for it to heal itself.
• song
  Songs are different from music.  Songs are the leitmotif of particular times and places in people’s lives.  Songs are for singing, for feeling with the entire body.
• touch
  I think one of the reasons I enjoy touching other people for a living is because of my own desire to be touched.  My parents were not particularly tactile people, and sometimes when I lay alone at night I can feel that lack.  That deep desire to touch and be held, to feel the safety of a warm embrace.  Just in general, American society is pretty touch-starved, and even touch-phobic, with all these warning we give to children about good touch and bad touch, and especially among men the misplacement of touch being less than manly.  This fear of touch is a fear of ourselves and the great potential that touch has to heal the world.

  Touch is the most primitive sense, the one from which the other senses evolved.  As such, it has tremendous capacity to communicate needs, feelings, desires, states of mind, well-being.

• s/m
  My interest in BDSM springs from my philosophy of service, as well as my desire to explore connection and intimacy in extreme circumstance.  But since Allan asked about s/m in particular, let me talk a bit about that.

  As far as sadism goes, there’s a certain thrill in feeling the energy rise off of a submissive’s person and riding that energy.  I enjoy seeing the look in a person’s eyes when they are helpless and vulnerable, unable to resist yet content with that situation, knowing that they are ultimately safe, that they trust.  It’s like surfing or skating – you glide upon the surface, judging the depths to which you are taking the bottom and feeling their waves.   One of my most stimulating forms of play as a top is breath control: sleeper holds, HOM, GOM, other forms of control.

  When we talk about masochism, well, I enjoy sensation and mastery over my own body.  I want to be put in out-of-control situations in order to control my fear, breathing, and stay present.  I’m all up for connecting with men who can explore trust via breath control, whipping, and other intense forms of sensation and control.

• dance
  Dance to me is a moving meditation, especially dance forms where you have to use all of your presence to do it well.  One of the reasons I like square dancing so much is that it “forces” you to be present.  The other dancers rely upon you to be focused and listening and observing not just your own place but theirs as well.  The potential for each dance to be a cooperative effort, for each dance to be different and exciting comes from one’s ability to be present and focused and open to others.  In this, square dancing is neighborly, friendly, musical, physical, centered and centering.

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