Archive for April, 2008

Working Out, Working, Work It

I went to the gym with Jason yesterday and we had a good workout and talk. I related to him the story of crack-whore shipmate, who grew up in a very similar circumstance to his own, and expressed my hope that he wouldn’t end up that way.

After the workout, we had lunch at Orphan Andy’s and continued our conversation. The problem I have is that he is so charming and sweet and just like a lost little boy. He recognizes that Drunky isn’t a good match for him, but he feels trapped there until he can get a job and become less dependent upon Drunky’s generosity.

I do feel more peaceful about the evolution of my relationship with him. I feel less like I have to “save” him from a bad situation now and can instead start focusing on just trying to be his friend. As it stands right now, he needs all the friends he can get.

After lunch, I had to go downtown for my first client. That seemed to go well, although calling him just now indicated that after he left, he had another migraine episode and is in bed right now. Second client continued the series of trigger point work we have been working on. Overall an excellent day yesterday.


Today, I had to do surgery on my left great toe to excise the ingrown toenail that seems to have become infected overnight. I popped a percodan and some ibuprofen to take down the inflammation, then took a nap. Woke up and worked on a client, and the percodan wore off, making the walk home quite an ordeal, I’ll tell y’all.

Right now, I’m noshing on some chevre and crackers listening to an episode of Unnatural Acts of Opera, the queer opera zine. They are playing an old recording of act three of Tristan und Isolde from the 1976 Bayreuth Festival.

If you have ever wondered about opera, UAoO is a good way to learn about it. La Cieca is funny and gives an informative introductions, as well as news from the world of opera. A great way to learn about a wonderful art form.

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I Love DNA

That this long dead body was found to have living descendents is truly wonderful. From the article:

Scientists have found a direct link between the frozen remains of a man found in a glacier in northern B.C. and 17 people living in B.C., Yukon and Alaska.

The news came at a symposium in Victoria this past weekend, focusing on Kwaday Dan Ts’inchi’, an aboriginal man whose remains were found in 1999 by hunters in Tatshenshini-Alsek Park, which is in the traditional territory of the Champagne and Aishihik First Nations.

“The connection to the people,” said Al Mackie, an archaeologist on the project, “how they know his clan, how they know who his relatives are, that’s amazing. You just don’t get that in archaeology. It never happens.”

Kwaday Dan Ts’inchi’ means Long Ago Person Found, and he’s believed to have died some time between the years 1670 and 1850. His remains were revealed after a glacier started to recede.

globeandmail.com: Scientists link 17 living people to an aboriginal man found in glacier

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Glorious Warm Sundays in San Francisco

Sunday I woke up and exchanged a fews text messages with Jason about seeing a movie in the afternoon. He went back to sleep and didn’t wake up until 17:30, though, so didn’t end up spending any time with him, but had a good day regardless.

At noon, I was in the ’stro at Bearbears waiting for him, hanging out with other loiterers there, people watching. Chatted with a few people I knew, but after a time, decided that Jason had overslept and went to get a salad at The Cove. While I was eating, I saw Kelvin walk by, so I texted him to see what he was up to. We wandered around the shops on Castro Street, and I greeted the people I knew as we walked, stopping to chat with a few here and there.

He had a coffee date with someone at 4pm back over in SoMa, though, so we boarded the streetcar. While he was in the magazine store getting change, my buddy, Eric the nurse, called me, and wanted to know if I wanted to hang out for a while. Since I only get to see him once a month or so, I jumped on the chance, and disembarked at the Dolores stop to walk to his place on Clinton Park.

The conversation was very good – Eric is always full of good advice. He counseled me to stop “enabling” Jason in his abusive, drunken relationship with Drunky. I haven’t written very much about Jason lately, but what I could write isn’t good. But, and I think Eric has a point, and that is if I keep offering Jason a rescue plan from Drunky, he won’t his rock bottom and decide to learn and grow on his own.

It’s been very difficult – Jason is the first man I that makes me feel like “Daddy” and protective. I have enjoyed that feeling very much. Disengaging from him has been very challenging, even with all the late night phone calls about how mean and cruel Drunky is toward him. It breaks my heart to hear him in this distress.

Yet I also have to remind myself that he chose to be with this guy, and that every time they fight, he chooses to stay. He’s just like the abused wife who bails her husband out of jail after he beat her up.

So, I have to seek detachment from this drama. It’s been contributing to my depression and I have more important things to do with my time right now.

OK, so enough Jason drama. Eric and I went and had dinner at Chow, then came back to his house, talked more, cuddled and took a nap. Finally, though, he took me home and I sacked out not long after getting home.

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Battlestar Galactica s4e4 – Escape Velocity

I don’t know about you, but I am really coming enjoy the Baltar storyline, and the way that the Adama and Roslin “romance” is moving along is very sweet and sad.

But the real action is with the final five Cylons that have been revealed thus far. The conflict being set up between Tigh and Tory over Tyrol’s uncertainty over what his newly-revealed Cylon identity means looks like it will be very interesting.

Question of the Moment: What do you think about this episode?

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Dems Push First Anti-McCain Ad

Hit hard, hit early, leave him face down in a pool of his own blood.

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Hmm, Maybe I’ve Still Got It

Yesterday started out pretty good, if a bit tentative. I woke up really early, got out of bed, checked messages, then went and had a morning nap on my sofa in the front room until it was time to wake back up to get to the Kabuki Springs for my 10am massage appointment. I lucked out last night and was able to get an appointment with Chris, that hot Aussie massage therapist who seems to just love climbing all over me while he works. I’m not complaining at all, as he’s a pretty good therapist.

After soaking and napping in the communal bath room, I left there at 12:30, had lunch at some Chinese place over near there, and rode the 22-Filmore back home, where I promptly slept for another few hours. I got to my office at around 16:45, and discovered that the janitor had moved my laundry delivery into my room. That was pretty nifty of them, as they usually just leave it outside my door for me to find.

Sheets put away, I decided to test out my wi-fi antenna that Plumpy fixed for me a few days ago. It’s a hi-gain antenna and helps me pick up some of the few open wi-fi routers in the building. I’d get DSL for the office, but the most basic business package starts at $100, and that’s way beyond my budget. I suppose I should seek out one of the owners of one of the routers and offer to pay a little bit to them to access it. Well, I can decide on that later.

My 18:00 client showed up a couple of minutes late, but we ended up having a good session. He brought his own CD to use – it was Goldfrapp’s Felt Mountain, which I had never heard before, and now I have to go out and purchase it, and figure out how to add it into my massage playlists. Very bizarre but oddly relaxing music.

After he left pretty blissed out, I headed down to the ’stro to deposit money, eat supper, and hear boyshapedboxBoyShapedBox performing at 7 Day Load, the new Thursday night event at Mom Daddy’s 440 Castro.

While I was there waiting for his set to start, this hot guy hit on me – he even remembered my name from when we met back in September at the Hairrison margarita booth. I suppose that red wrestling singlet has something to do with it. Nothing like getting hit on by a sexy young man to boost the ego and lift one’s spirits.

But back to the music. I wish I had taken the time to see him before this – his mash-ups and mixing style are really fantastic, and I thoroughly enjoyed myself. If you get the chance to hear him do his thing, I strongly suggest you do it. I had a wonderful time!

Simultaneously, I met bunnykittehbunnykitteh and a few other LJers tonight – apparently, a bunch of LJers get together at 440 on the last Thursday of the month for cocktails and merriment. Who knew? That was a fun gathering, even if I only stayed on the periphery of it.

Finally, though, the long day started to catch up with me and I walked home. This is the second day this week I walked from the ’stro to UGH, and I wasn’t winded at all. I guess all that time on the treadmill is paying off!

Thank you to everyone who commented their kind thoughts and wishes – as one commenter said, just venting it helped me process it – and encouraged me to take some concrete actions to help lift me from that funk. I don’t have to sit on the pity pot any longer than I make myself do it.

I can’t say that I feel all the way better yet, but getting out of the house and doing stuff certainly helped.

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Caption Contest


Yes, let’s do a caption contest again on this pic.

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That’s the Rub

There’s very little that compares to receiving some wonderful touch to lift one’s spirits. I’m still in a bit of a funk, but at least I’m not gnashing my teeth and rending my garments anymore.

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Ah, Sleep

Amazing what a little bit of sleep will do for a person’s mood. I’m still getting that massage, though.

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Heal Thyself

So, in an effort to get over feeling like a human turd, I decided to take a bit of my own advice and get a massage tomorrow morning.

I’ll let you know how I feel.

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