i do not think that any love is any truer than any other love. is the love a mother has for her child any truer than the love of a father for his child? how about the love between siblings, or cousins, or grandparents and grandchild?
similarly, the loves i hold for my lovers are all “true” but they are certainly all different, too. and yes, love lasts forever. i still love my first lover; doesn’t mean that i’d go be back with him again, but the feelings are still there, tempered by time.
the success of a relationship is not measured by how long it lasts, but by how well it fulfills the needs of its members. your words show that you are still stuck in the heterosexualmonogamous paradigm. we don’t have to mimic our relationships based upon that way of being.
one of the the joys of being gay is that we can create family and relationships of our own devising. we don’t have to love our family just because they are our family (not that straights necessarily do that, but the societal pressure certainly is there) – we get to choose who is our family, and love them because of that.
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