Archive for April, 2007
The Sacramentan
Two clients today, both from Sacramento, although one declined to attend without letting me know. The first client, though, let me hitch a ride back with them, so I’m sitting in the downtown Sacramento Travelodge, enjoying the cooling delta breeze in this evening’s balmy clime. Tomorrow, I am brunching with Darwin – yes, that Darwin, the guy I dated for a few months last year. Seems that we started talking on the phone in the past couple of weeks, and there’s something unfinished there to be seen to. Don’t know what that is, and I’m keeping my expectations low.
Also on tomorrow’s agenda is the attempt to fix my younger sister’s computer. Very likely I’ll just go with her to Fry’s and make her buy a new one, though.
Finally, there’s my nephew and his baby-mommy’s baby shower. Ugh. I get to go and be the disapproving uncle. That’s pretty stinky, really, but I just do not approve of this coupling. I don’t know why: maybe it’s because my gaydar goes off for him and her. Well, there’s nothing for me to approve or disapprove, really. It’s none of my business. So, I’ll empty my cup before I go there, and look at it with new eyes.
Tonight, though, I’m going to see if I can find Darin and Christy and hang out with them for a few hours. They have been working on their second movie, and I think this weekend was a big shoot on their schedule, so hopefully I’ll find them.
Daddies on Edge
I worked on my first couple of clients from the the building yesterday, a little chair massage party for three ladies who like to get together for a potluck. I think that at least one of them will become a regular table client. Hooray! After the massages, the invited me to come and eat and chat with them, so I had a little bit of Thai food and a piece of apple pie with ice cream. This was a perfect way to cap off my work week.
Decided that it was time to head out to the Happy Hour at l’Edge (don’t jump!). Over the course of the week, I’d been chatting with this fellow in town from Houston. He’d been here in town (well, Fremont) on business all week, and we had tried a couple of times to meet, but it wasn’t working out. I let him know that I was going to be at Edge/Daddies/Lone Star drinking beer and hanging out, and that if he had time, to stop by. Meanwhile, I met Kenny, and hung out with
Steven (kitchenbeard),
Steve (Rampagebear),
Greg(orbehr), his lovely “wife,” Shannon, who is simply amazing, and all sorts of others. (note to self: remember to buy KB a cocktail next time you see him)
But, it wasn’t until I was standing in line buy Rampagebear his birthday Corona that it happened. Just turned around while I was waiting in line, and there was this beautiful man standing just a couple of people back. Tall, sandy brown hair, sexy eyes. He looked really familiar, and I did a double-take. “Hello, Paul,” he said to me as he extended his hand, “I’m John. You said you’d be here, so I decided to come by and meet you.” Knock me over with a feather. We shook hands (nice warm firm grip), and I asked him if he wanted a beer. “I’ll have a Stella.” I was drinking Bass Ale, which is the only thing worth drinking there, as the Guiness comes in cans or bottles, which seems like sacrilege.
I introduced him to the guys, and just started talking to him about this and that. He’s a couple inches shorter than me, but it’s nice to be able to look into a guys eyes without bending down. A couple of beers later, and he asked me about that other place I mentioned, Daddies, and I said, let’s go over there and I’ll show you.
We walked over to Daddies and bought the Fog’s beer bust. Had a couple of beers. Talked to Joe and John about the Scottish games, had my buddy, Todd, try to pawn off this lame-looking porn collection he won in the raffle on me (and everyone else). Took my shirt off to reveal the red singlet I was wearing underneath.
And then John kissed me, just a light brushing or our lips, then more intently. Wow, I had forgotten how wonderful it is to be kissed by a man who really knows what he’s doing. I could feel my pulse increasing.
But, John had to fly back to Houston, so we didn’t have a lot of time, so we went up to the top of Twin Peaks to show him the nighttime view of the bay. He’d never been up there before (well, never been in San Francisco proper before either), and I could tell he thought it beautiful, delightful. We kissed again, cuddled a bit. Then it was time for him to leave, so he gave me a ride home, and left for OAK to get back to Houston. I went upstairs and slept soundly, peacefully, and dreamed of sweet kisses.
Living Small
Small houses challenge our notions of need as well as minimum-size standards
I like this idea – the idea of living very simply is quite appealing to me, especially in a beautifully crafted space. Who wants to go in on the purchase of acreage and a bunch of these? It could be both a retreat and a homestead…
a response to a questions on is polyamorous love “true” love:
i do not think that any love is any truer than any other love. is the love a mother has for her child any truer than the love of a father for his child? how about the love between siblings, or cousins, or grandparents and grandchild?
similarly, the loves i hold for my lovers are all “true” but they are certainly all different, too. and yes, love lasts forever. i still love my first lover; doesn’t mean that i’d go be back with him again, but the feelings are still there, tempered by time.
the success of a relationship is not measured by how long it lasts, but by how well it fulfills the needs of its members. your words show that you are still stuck in the heterosexualmonogamous paradigm. we don’t have to mimic our relationships based upon that way of being.
one of the the joys of being gay is that we can create family and relationships of our own devising. we don’t have to love our family just because they are our family (not that straights necessarily do that, but the societal pressure certainly is there) – we get to choose who is our family, and love them because of that.
Hot Fuzz
Hot Fuzz with the MovieBears was fantastic.
The evening started off with me forgetting to look at the website to see where to meet for tickets, but I saw
Dave (dhbearguy) in the food court of the San Francisco Centre, and he gave me the low-down, so I relaxed and got some dinner at Coriander Gourmet Thai, which is my current favorite at the food court, before heading up, up, up all those darned escalators to the Century Theater, where Mr. Hayes was selling the discount tickets in the theater’s lovely open lobby.
(yes, despite the fact that Westfield reneged on their agreement to preserve more of the original emporium building, it’s still a very nice public space)
While I was sitting there, chatting with
Richard (BoyShapedBox) and Phillip (BearShapedBoyfriend), my Kabuki buddy, Bill showed up and got a ticket, too. What a delight he is – sweet man, handsome face, sexy body. He and I ended up sitting together to watch the movie.
And what a movie it is. Simon Pegg has really done it again with his take on the police action comedy. I found myself laughing out loud throughout the film – it’s smart, fast-paced, comedy that morphs into a real blood and guts action-packed, car chase gun battle with a gruesomely funny twist ending. If you haven’t already seen it – go see it. It is totally worth it.
From there, Bill and I walked down to the concourse level together, and onto the Muni platform, where we parted ways. I really should try to see more of him. But regardless, it was a great evening and helped me climb out of that post-school funk into which I’d sunk .
Funk, funk… funk, funk.
Alright, who’s going to see Hot Fuzz tonight at the Century with the Movie Bears?
I am so going to be there tonight. I think I’m stepping out of that funk!
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Work a-plenty
I am kicking myself for oversleeping today and missing the beer busts. I am finding it hard to become motivated to go out socializing. I had every intention of getting out there and just relaxing, but when it came time to actually go do it, I went to bed and slept instead. I feel like such a loser today.
I had two clients on Saturday, and when the second one left, instead of going home, I just hung out at my office. Next thing I know, it’s midnight. Another night wasted.
I need to find the motivation to get out and be social again.
*plonk*
Is it just me, or is there a rash of drama going on on LJ lately?
Fortunately, that’s what the plonk is for!
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BOSF Game Night
I went to the Bears of San Francisco’s Game Night at Jack and Cody’s place tonight. Many bears were in attendance, including a few LJers, but I’ll let them name themselves, lest I forget someone. Mostly, I crocheted this nifty cell phone cozy from this irridescent French ribbon I purchased at Urban Knitting Studio the other day. It was nice to have the bears come up to me and ask me what I was making, as well as kept me occupied and listening while people regaled each other with tales of derring-do and mockery of the Country Music Awards.


