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You’ve written about the time you spent with Bob and Jeff. Today’s questions are about that.
1) Any prior experience of polyamory (or as I prefer, polyfidelity)?
Although I have dated many men, I have only been in three significant relationships in my life: Renee, (e)Ric, and Rick. Each was monogamous, although with Rick, we changed that an opened it up, using the rules that
2) Would you move to CO?
I have been doing research on establishing a massage practice in Colorado. The training requirements are tough, but within reach with some effort. If I move there depends on a number of factors, first of which being getting restabilized financially here. I have yet to pay the rent successfully with just massage work, so first things first. In a similar vein, the place where Bob and Jeff and I are right now is getting to know each other, so it’s far too early to tell where that’s going. I have my dreams and aspirations for that relationship, but that’s all I have at the moment.
3) When are you coming back to Tucson?
Well, the most definate next visit will be January 2005 for Fiesta. Anything sooner would require more resources than I currently am capable of mustering. Any out-of-state travel for my forseeable future is going to be directed toward Colorado.
4) If Trash Film Orgy were to end, what would you do instead?
Well, I’m starting work on another performance project, called Exploding Opera. We’re going to try to stage three adaptations: Faust, Joe’s Garage, and The Rise and Fall of the City of Mahagonny. I am also interested in some other stuff, but that stuff’s all void and without form so far.
5) Your recent advertising experience seems to have hurt your feelings. (*long rocking hug* * goatee tug*) When is it hard for you to be happy with your glorious physical self?
My feelings were hurt for only about as long as it took for me to process that LJ post, but your kind thoughts are appreciate nonetheless. I think that I made some mistakes in how I presented my self and am addressing those mistakes. Generally, though, my acceptance of myself is much more complete than in previous years. I did two weekends at Rancho Cicada Retreat last summer that got me much more comfortable in my own skin. One doesn’t have much choice when that’s all one has to wear! Still, I have my moments of doubt, but I have those memories that help support me now. Having been naked for much of the weekend up there does wonders for one’s view of one’s own body. I saw all body types, big and little, muscled and flabby; everyone was comfortable with their assets and flaws on display for anyone to see. When I realized that everyone’s body is flawed — visually, viscerally realized — that’s when I stopped caring what other people thought about my body, or what I thought other people thought about it. Generally, most people think about me as little as I think about them, which is to say almost not at all. Most people are too caught up in their perceptions of other’s perceptions of them to really think about other people. With that in mind, it’s more easy to be confident about oneself.
Anybody else wanna some questions?
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